Not Right Now Kids.. Mommy Is Clocked Out!


Bold title huh? Yes i know! But that’s a sentence my 4 kids hear three times a day, every single day. I make it a point to tell people all the time, wherever i go that i love my job. I’ve worked at the same place for 8 years, and i can’t imagine doing anything except what i know for sure is the best job on the planet. Oh my gosh what do you do? Is the question i hear so often when in line at the grocery store making small talk with the person behind me. I hold my head high, puff up my chest and proudly declare, I’M A MOMMY!!! What follows next is usually “Awwww how many kids do you have”, or “Oh wow you must never get a break” To which i reply with “Oh you’d be quite surprised that i manage to take two 10 minute breaks, and a 30 minute lunch everyday”.  Yes you read right Titus 2 Women, I take 3 breaks a day, and if you’re not doing the same I’d advise you to start TODAY! It will enhance your life, and you will mother better! I’ve mentioned before that i have the best husband on planet Earth that truly appreciates and understands how much actual work i do on a daily basis in our home with our four loves. Early on into my career as a “professional mommy” as one of my dearest friends so affectionately calls me, my husband Erick encouraged me to rest, and relax during the day. He also reminded me that by law his job makes him take breaks during the day so that in the long run he is more productive, and i should have the same right by the law of the Castelin land.  Now in the early years, I’d hear nothing of it. I wanted to do as much as i possible could and maximize every waking moment during the day. While that was successful, and i ran a organized home, that was always tidy (and still is now) the enemy started to plant seeds of resentment in mind, i started to feel burnt out and i even began to believe that i wasn’t deserving of a break because after all, I’m a mother. Mother’s don’t need breaks. They certainly don’t take breaks, and if they do take them they must not be good mothers. Its tragic to think how many mommies around the globe have had their minds twisted by the adversary and actually believe they are unworthy of a break, despite doing the most physically and emotionally taxing job on Earth. Mark 6:31 reads;

Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, He said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.

Now, I’m in no way comparing myself to Jesus after feeding the 5000, but i can say after making food, and feeding 4 hungry kids lunch, I myself am pretty tired LOL! After studying the scriptures i noticed a common theme… God actually ENCOURAGES rest! That was breaking news to me, and i had to repent. Not just because i failed to listen to my husbands instruction, but because God Himself encourages us to rest, and to rest often. If God can see the value in the refreshment that comes after taking a pause, they why couldn’t I? I am not God, and i should not try to be. It didn’t take long for me to implement my three breaks a day rule. Here’s how it works: I have a digital kitchen timer that stays on the fridge, we use it for EVERYTHING! In the morning after we’ve had breakfast, finished school drop off, and I’ve made a few phone calls or done some house work i set my timer for 10 minutes. I let the munchkins know that I’m about to go on a break, and ask if they need anything before i do. After all, they are the bosses 🙂 They know not to bother me during those 10 minutes unless someone is bleeding or throwing up, and i always stay where i can still see and hear everyone. I use the timer instead of just simply keeping track on my phone, so that the kids will hear and know when mommy’s break time has ended. During those 10 minutes i browse Facebook, Instagram, and sometimes even eat a light snack like apple slices and drink some water. Its like my own teeny, tiny mini vacation.  I always feel like i can ease through the rest of the day after my break. I repeat that process in the late afternoon before i start prepping dinner and after I’ve gone through the school pick up line. I remind them that mommy has done a lot of work this afternoon and a break would make me feel better. Refrain from calling it a “mommy timeout” you are not in trouble. Quite the opposite actually, its a reward for your efforts. By explaining your need for a break to your children, they will value all the work you do in the home so much more. Also, they won’t think that all the laundry folding, vegetable chopping, and floor mopping is effortless. It does take effort. Effort that is noticed by God, and your husband , It should be noticed and appreciated by your children. Ladies don’t allow the enemy to rip away one of the things you need most.. REST. Do what is best for not just yourself, but for your husband and children. It may feel as though someone is laying on the fast forward button, so i encourage you to hit the pause button in the middle of the day. Its been proven that companies that treat their employees well, and show their appreciation in small ways often don’t have as high of a turnover rate as those that don’t recognize the efforts of their employees. Now you obviously can’t go “work” or a different family, but the burnt out feeling you have in your own home will go away. Ladies, clock out and take a break. You most certainly deserve it, and your Heavenly Father encourages you to.


You must be steadfast in preparing yourself for not just the birthing process, but also for the eventual baby. So often we talk about God’s timing in a way that seems as though everything we have prayed for will take a long period of time before you see those prayers become manifest in your life. That is not always the case. God is ready to bless you. He’s your Heavenly Father, it delights Him more that it delights you for Him to bless you! But you must get yourself ready for it. You must be ready for the amazing thing God wants to suddenly do in your life. You may have prayed for it, but have you prepared for it? Preparation and prayer should go hand in hand but far too often they do not. When we want to sound super spiritual we say things like “God won’t give you more than you can bare” which the absolute truth. But you may have not received your Boaz, business, or ministry yet because you haven’t made yourself ready for it. You may really want that sudden shift in your life, but have not gotten yourself prepared for it. Have you studied the scriptures on the characteristics of a Godly wife? Researched what it takes to start and run a business? Fasted on the direction in which God wants to take your ministry? Our Heavenly Father is looking for us to prepare our own selves for the blessing. The waiting game is your time to prepare, not your time to remain idle. Ezekiel 38:7 reads; 

“Prepare yourself and be ready, you and all your companies that are gathered about you; and be a guard for them. 

You must prepare yourself and be ready!!!! Think of it as a 16 year olds hat just got their drivers license who desperately wants, and has begged their parents a Ferrari. Any responsible parent knows their 16 year old child is not prepared for the speed and power of a Ferrari, but what they are prepared for is a Ford Focus. That child never looses the desire for the Ferrari, but instead drives the Focus and gets well acquainted with the laws of the road, and different scenarios that happen while driving. All the while their parents are paying attention to the care, and responsible way in which their young adult is handling that car. Then one day seemingly out of nowhere to the 16 year old, they wake up to find a Ferrari with a big red bow waiting for them in their parents driveway. It will be suddenly to them, but the parent has watched for a period of time (it could be long, it could be short depending on how proactive they are in readying themselves) and feels confident knowing they are now well ready for the responsibility of such a fast car. I urge you ladies to not let your prayers and request to God hit the ceiling by your unwillingness to prepare for that which you ask for. Become a lady in waiting that maximizes her time by not just praying but by also preparing.