One thing that God expects for our lives is order. Order in our finances, order at our jobs, and order within our homes. Our wonderful Master is a creator, He created all good things, and of those good things He created marriage. What a gift we have in covenant marriage. When marriage is executed the way He designed it, its beautiful, loving, passionate and respectful. Colossians 1:16 states that all things were created through Him and for Him, marriages included! In fact , our marriages are intended to be used as an outward display of Christ’s love for us, and that display should bring glory to The Father, as well as be an encouragement to others. Married and unmarried alike.
God designed marriages and families in an orderly fashion. A chronological order if you will, with our never ending pursuit of Christ coming first, followed by the commitment we have to our husbands, and lastly the responsibility of caring for and raising our children. When a woman becomes a mother it is easy to get those out of order, but Titus 2:4 maps out the order in which our lives should be fashioned “that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,” Loving our husbands comes before loving our children. Period. And by doing this it doesn’t make you a bad mom as the enemy would have you believe but it positions you properly and in turn causes you to be a better wife, AND better mother. By displaying an example of a Godly wife for your sons and daughters you are setting them up for a successful marriage later on in their adult years. Keep this in mind, a good mother puts her husband first, a good mother, shows her husband respect publicly and privately, a good mother fosters her relationship with God before she fosters the one with her husband. When you get out of order you are snatching not just yourself but your entire family out of God’s will, leaving yourselves exposed and uncovered. Delight in knowing God already laid out the order of your priorities for you. It’s in His unchangeable word. Knowing this increases your confidence and eliminates the uncertainty of your heart and mind when you prioritize your life according to His will. You can never go wrong with sticking to the map, no matter how tempting a shortcut may look.
Stay in order ladies, and by doing so you paint a beautiful picture to others of what marriage is suppose to be, and encourage those around you that may have gone off course that God’s direction is not only best, but also the most fulfilling. Your attempt to be the best mom this side of Heaven by putting your kids first is sloppy, not biblical, out of order and is certainly unpleasing to God. I don’t know about you but I want to maintain a Proverbs 31:28 life where my children call and see me as blessed and my husband praises me. The only way to accomplish that is to stay in God’s chronological order for your life.